If ever the world needed Mr. Rogers, now is the time. We could use his sense of calm, sincerity and wisdom. The world seems to be caught in the antithesis of Mr. Rogers’ goodness.
Pantry Talk
As the weeks led up to our European adventure, we had let all of our food supplies dwindle so there would be little left in the fridge and pantry. Once we cancelled our trip (about 10 days before the virus onslaught) we restocked our fridge, freezer, and pantry to maximum capacity. It was fortuitous as little did we know what was to come.
Day 13: Self-imposed Isolation
With much thought and purpose, we chose to self-isolate even before our home state of Maryland closed all non-essential businesses and schools, and encouraged everyone to stay at home and practice social distancing.
Because we provide daily care, three days a week for our toddler grandson, we chose to isolate ourselves, as did four other family members. Since our son and daughter-in-law are working from home indefinitely, our familia isolation allows us to continue child care.
As a couple we literally have not stepped foot inside a pubic or commercial building in 13 days and our resolve not to, is solid.
While Others Step Up
It’s an interesting phenomenon, isn’t it? When crises arise, people seem to alter their behavior. While others step up in a positive fashion, there are unfortunately, those whose true colors show through in a less than flattering way.
For example, toilet paper. Is there anything seemingly more ridiculous than people hoarding toilet paper? Where did the notion of needing 100+ rolls of toilet paper take hold? Or, the young man who thought he had the genius idea of collecting 17,000 bottles of hand sanitizer, expecting to sell it at a profit. Profiting from the needs of others in a crisis? True colors?
Or, the young man who arrogantly declared on camera that if he caught the virus, then he’ll get the virus but it won’t stop his partying. When we watched the news clip my thought was, “Oh, your mother must be so proud.” His apology soon appeared on Twitter.
Perhaps the Most Despicable
Perhaps the most despicable, far more so than hand sanitizer hoarding, was the recent proclamations by loud obnoxious public personalities (here in the United States) proclaiming that those who are 60+ in age should stop isolating, return to work and play, and take one for the country.
Loosely translated, seniors and the elderly are dispensable when it comes to saving the country’s economy, loosely translated to pumping up the stock market, which is loosely translated to lining the pockets of the 1%.
I almost didn’t mention these stories because they are despicable, but I think to find the good in people, we also have to be aware of the other side to keep a balanced perspective. I’m not including links to the stories though because I don’t want to send traffic to them, but a quick Google search will answer any questions.
#Flattenthecurve
We’ve been quite content in our self-imposed isolation considering we are beyond fortunate in having a home and food in the pantry. More importantly, as we are retired we do not have to worry about losing jobs. The best thing we can do is stay home and help #flattenthecurve.
The headlines of the past couple of days though have triggered an inner anger. When did we become a society in which seniors and the elderly are dispensable? The more I thought about it the angrier I became. Irrationally so because I know the voices of the despicable are just that, despicable. Maybe it’s the fact that millions of people fall victim to the spewing that fuels my anger. I say fall victim because surely they can’t buy in to the rhetoric. That would be too much like drinking the Kool-aide. Right?
And, that’s where my head was when I thought of Mr. Rogers.
Thank you, Mr. Rogers
Thank you, Mr. Rogers, for reminding me that I can’t give in to anger. If I do I won’t remain emotionally healthy as we make our way through what we believe will be months of isolation. If you think about it, it’s a small price to pay for staying healthy… and alive, this whole isolation thing.
Better Days to Come
I’ve been thinking about the helpers and the people who are trying to make the best of a difficult situation. The health care workers, the delivery drivers, neighbors helping neighbors, etc., Even those who just make eye contact and smile, say hello or make us laugh.
What’s difficult to fathom is that the entire world is fighting the same battle. Which means the entire world is looking for the helpers, a sign of hope, and a glimmer of better days to come.
Look for the Helpers
Our friends, Frank and Lissette with The Travels of BBQ Boy & Spanky were traveling in Spain when a nation-wide lockdown was imposed. They were fortunate in that they found an Airbnb with a hostess who graciously invited them to stay as long as needed. Their hostess is definitely a helper.
To pass the time, Frank and Lissette decided to draw self-portraits. I found them hilarious. They were my Mr. Rogers helpers on a day I needed to let go of my anger.
Helpers in the Headlines
Cities are shutting down, businesses are closing their doors and unemployment is understandably soaring. And yet, we don’t see enough good news stories. Usually, they show up in the last three minutes of the nightly news. It’s up to each of us to look for the helpers.
In order to comply with city mandates, Chef Jose Andres closed all of his restaurants in Washington, DC. A few of the sites have been transformed in to community kitchens that are now serving lunch to those in need.
I had never heard the name Kent Taylor until yesterday. He is the Founder and CEO of the Texas Roadhouse restaurant chain. He has stepped up and offered one year of his salary to cover the payroll of the hourly wage earners who work for the chain.
Forbes published a list of 50 companies that are stepping up in time of crisis. There is a wide range of what is being donated, but it all makes a difference. It all helps.
These are the Helpers
These are all of the helpers to which Mr. Rogers referred. Big or small, they are helpers. If you look for them, you’ll surely find them.
It’s Too Big For Me
It’s both heart wrenching and terrifying to know the depth of suffering around the world; to know it will all get much worse before it gets better. A friend of mine said it best when she said, “It’s too big for me.”
If we stay strong, block out the ugly and look for the helpers, we’ll get through this, and hopefully, come out stronger on the other side.
Pollyanna
“When you look for the bad, expecting it, you will get it. When you know you will find the good—you will get that….”
― Eleanor H. Porter, Pollyanna
Loved your video Patti and the feeling of lightness and hope I had while I was watching it. We all need to share more kindnesses through this time and I thank you for reminding me of that. There’s more than enough heartbreak, disillusionment and anger to go around but it’s good to remember laughter and our gratitude lists daily too. It’ll be the people who take time to help others that will get us through this. Stay well my friends!
Thank you, Anita. We had hoped to connect with you in Lisbon on our planned trip, but alas… Take good care of yourself and enjoy the serenity of Portugal.
Patti, Mister Rodgers as the answer to our current crisis seems like a perfectly sane conclusion. Perhaps the electorate will see the wisdom of the Mr Rodgers ideal, the kind and thoughtful and even tempered older man ie. Biden will win the upcoming election. Come to think of it Mr. Rodgers should be, could be a brand for Biden to take on.. the folksy, helping kind of personna.
The toilet paper thing is symptomatic of America panicking in times of crisis. As if toilet paper in times of war is the most important thing to have…. Far more important than toilet paper is a sense of social cohesion as we collectively muddle through the response to this crisis. There will always be those that behave badly and show their dark true colors and those that are helpers who shine through in time of need. Every war has its heroes and its villains. We are just at the beginning. We need more Mr Rodgers archetypes, agreed. Great post.
Ben
Thank you, Ben. I see Mr. Rogers in Dr. Fauci as he provides a source of calm, honesty and intelligence. We are indeed at the beginning with what is a most unfortunate administration. Let us all work toward a monumental change in November. By the way, I’d love to take a walk on your beach.
Like in any war, we are all bearing witness to the extreme kindness of individuals and the generosity of companies who have stepped up and tweaked their production lines to meet the new demands this virus is making of us.
We are seeing people and bloggers like you Patti that open up and share their realities and challenges that helps us not feel alone and dims the effects of isolation. There are others who sing and chant to keep the community spirits up. After a day of watching and reading news, I often feel angry, drained and at time just hopeless. Connecting to these uplifting stories and people warms my heart and reminds me that this time will pass.
But like you mentioned in your post, the ugly side of human nature is rearing its ugly head. The hoarding of toilet paper (geez if you need that much TP you should see a doctor), the suggestion that anyone over 50 should “take on for the team” oh yeah? @#$% YOU. price gouging that is putting the front line workers at risk, the increase in gun purchases and the misinformation from those we SHOULD be looking up to now is just disheartening. My decision to move to Canada over 25 years ago was the best decision I ever made.
Your post made me think about ways in which I can make someone’s day (not including that Frank Thomae 😉 ). Our lock down is a little hard core but it does not mean I can’t connect and make a difference. At 8:00 pm, I join the rest of neighbors in cheering the health care workers for all they are doing. I know they can not hear us but they all know we are doing it (It also feels like a roll call…yes I’m still okay, see you tomorrow). Tonight, I might shake some Maracas I found in our Airbnb place for that little extra crazy I sometimes like to bring.
The health care workers need all of our positive thoughts and energy to get through this.
Yesterday, I thanked the young man at our local supermarket for being sweet, always going out of his way to be helpful and for showing up everyday. He gave me the biggest smile and under other circumstances he would have given me a big hug. I can see he is tired but his shop supports our existence in this little part of Leon so he does what a hero would do, show up and do what he can to help others.
Thank you Patti for leading us to Leon. We were meant to stay only a few days before we moved on to our last highlight –Madrid. I can’t imagine being locked down in the tiny apartment we were looking at renting there. Leon is giving me everything I need and it will forever be a VERY,VERY special place to me.
So I will forever think of you and thank you as MY helper during this crisis. So sending virtual hugs and kisses.
Keep well and keep up the fight Patti!
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I’m fairly certain, Lissette, that we are in fact kindred spirits. Be well and take care of yourself and “that” Frank Thomae.
Patti, in a world of so many sad news and selfish acts, I hope that it will be the kindness of people that will linger in our memories. Brian and I are taking one day at a time, keeping a bit of a structure to our daily lives, with getting up at a reasonable hour, doing some exercise, staying in touch with loved ones via video chats, reading, writing and watching TV (trying to minimise programs that make us sad). I love the above drawings made by Frank and Lissette, I wish I could draw like that Keep well Patti and Abi.
Selfish is a very good descriptor, Gilda, it certainly rings true here in the US… sadly. I’m glad to know you and Brian are safely tucked in to ride out the storm. We’ve been binge watching Doc. Martin and it makes us think, cry, and laugh, exactly what we need. Take care of each other.
Very nice post Patti. And I’m glad somebody likes our self portraits. Shows you what people do when stuck in lockdown a bit too long – I really don’t know when we last sat down to draw something.
About our friendly Airbnb host in Leon. We decided to stay an additional month with all that’s going on. That’ll take us to May 5th. She’s charging us 550 Euro for the additional month. It would have been so easy to gouge us but instead she went overboard in the opposite direction. When we come back to Spain (after we go back to Canada for our long term visa) we’ll make sure to come back to Leon to visit Mariateresa. And if I remember right, it was you that suggested a visit to Leon. Who knew at the time it would end up being a 7 week stay…
Stay safe both of you .
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Thank you, Frank. I have to tell you when I came across the self-portraits I cracked up. It was the best timing as I really was in a funk. I loved Lissette’s modern approach, and your beard. Hilarious. Yep, it was me that suggested and encouraged you to visit Leon and I’m not the least bit surprised that your hostess is honest and kind. We found a similar spirited man in Leon (he owned a sports gear store) who took 30 minutes out of his day to teach us how to take care of my feet. When we can once again resume our travel plans, we’re definitely returning to Leon, and we’re definitely going to track you down. 🙂
PS anyone who has not watched the new Mr. Rogers movie with Tom Hanks should do so.
Hi Patti, I appoint you my helper of the day. Your writing is beautiful and because I know you so well, true and heartfelt. Blessings to you and yours.
Ah… thank you, Linda, that’s very (very) sweet.
Ah, thanks so much for this post. Look for the helpers, indeed – and they are everywhere. Like you, we’ve been watching the news coming out of the US with astonishment, horror, and a lot of anger. It really does feel too big for us, but that’s why we all need to focus on the good news and the helpers. Things WILL be OK. I know, because Mr Rogers, my hero, said so 🙂
Thank you John and Susan for the kind feedback. Continued safe travels to you and let’s keep looking for the helpers.